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A Simple Guide to
Finding Your Purpose

These simple questions will trigger insight and provoke inspiration so you can easily find you purpose.

Do you feel like your life is pretty darn great, but you still don’t feel fully satisfied?

Have you gotten to a point where you’ve done all this “stuff,” but don’t know why exactly?

Maybe you thought you were supposed to do certain things a certain way, but now that you’ve racked up more life experience, you’ve realized that you want to do things differently.

You want to do what you want, but the problem is, you just don’t know what that is.

Been there, done that. In fact, it’s a lap I used to take regularly. (Too bad it was just a virtual run. I’d have been in such good shape if it'd been real.)

I’d get to a point where I’d think my life was good, but not good enough. I'd have this nagging feeling that I wanted more. I wanted to feel like I was living with meaning and purpose.

So I’d wait for my sign. Time would stand still, the sky would brighten, and my guardian angel would descend from above to tell me exactly what to do.

The day I met my angel, I was forever changed.

Okay, that didn't happen, BUT I was forever changed once I realized that I didn’t need a huge sign to point me in the right direction.

Rather, my struggle and confusion were the signals I needed to take my power back and figure this stuff out. I had to take action!

How’d I do it? I’m about to tell you, so listen up! ;-)

First things first. You have to get still. (This was a serious challenge for me, because I was always moving and thinking so quickly. I never slowed down long enough to pay attention and hear anything.)

Second, you need to listen to yourself. Recognize your voice and connect with your higher self.

Consider your gut - your heart, intuition, inner guide, Jiminy Cricket conscience, whatever you want to call it - your internal radio station. Can you hear today’s top hits on Z100 when you’re tuned into 106.7 Lite FM?? Nope.

So start with those two steps. Get quiet and tune into your own personal frequency by practicing awareness.

Now for the juicy stuff! Set aside some time to be alone and undisturbed.

Grab (or pick up gently) a notebook and pen and jot down your answers to, thoughts on, and feelings about the following questions:

-What has meaning to you? (You can say television. No judgment.)
-What do you care about? (Baked goods are definitely a suitable answer.)
-Any problem, annoyance, or frustration you’d love to fix? (Subway etiquette lessons are my idea – don’t steal it! Or maybe we could partner up…)
-What do people thank you for?
-What types of books and/or magazines do you read?
-What do you find yourself wanting to do in your free time?
-What conversations hold interest for you?
-What are you doing when the time seems to fly by, because you’re enjoying yourself so much?

These are just some of the questions I use to trigger insight and provoke inspiration for my clients.

Here’s another fun exercise that I highly recommend.

Personal History Lesson

-What did you dream about as a kid? (Please tell me that I wasn’t the only one who wanted to be Susanna Hoff from The Bangles.)
-How did you play when you were younger? (I lectured to nobody in the basement, played teacher with the old handouts I’d ask for at the end of the school year, and acted as hotel manager. (I went all out, pulling my triple dresser out from against the wall so that my imaginary guests could step up to the “front desk.” I spent my allowance on triplicate receipts and forms, created processes, and used a toy cash register to check people out.) Those were the days!!)
-What activities, groups, or clubs were you involved in?
-List every job you ever had. Include the things you didn’t get paid for, like mowing the lawn, babysitting, helping your mom sell things at a craft show, cleaning the house, serving at a soup kitchen, etc.
-Then, take a deeper dive by listing what you did in each position. Put a smiley face next to all the things you liked, then think about and write down why you liked, or didn’t like, certain aspects.

*Please approach this as an enjoyable trip down memory lane. It’s not the time to get ahead of yourself and think about what is or isn’t possible right now or in your future. Just be open, recall as much as you can, and try to have fun with it! Let yourself free flow without judging your thoughts and feelings. Okay?? Okay!!

I love going through these personal history lessons with clients because I can immediately pick up on the energetic, visible, and audible differences between something they love doing and something they don’t.

Usually, they realize that they’re so caught up in the small stuff that they can't see the big picture. I help them widen their view and make connections.

As I went through this process myself, I could feel the smile on my face as I recalled activities that I enjoyed, compared to the eye roll that happened automatically when I’d think of the conference call I was just on, where the speaker sounded like a robot and I could barely stay awake! (Love a good corporate America flashback!)

I hope this exercise will inspire you and get your juices flowing! Next week, we’ll work on what comes after you figure out your purpose. Or don't.

Now I’d love to hear from you! What insights did you have as you worked through these questions? If you’re having a hard time, what’s tripping you up? Maybe I can help. Reach out directly or let me know in the comments below.

If you liked this and think it would help someone else, please feel free to spread The Buzz with the links below. I’d “bee” ever so grateful!

Until next time…

Bee Buzzing,

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