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Do You Fall Into This Trap?

Thinking your real life will start once you reach your imaginary finish line is a sure fire way to live stressed, depressed and exhausted.

Are you so focused on the finish line that you’re not enjoying the journey?

That’s an easy trap to fall into because in order to enjoy the journey we have to get comfortable being uncomfortable and accept that change is the only constant.

I used to want to smack the people who said such things! Funny, how we humans resist things with the potential to make our lives easier. (Or is it strictly stubborn fire signs, like me?!)

Why is it so hard to relax into those truths? We want to get the promotion, the boyfriend, the new body, the – fill in the blank – AND THEN… But then what?

Where are you going? What’s the hurry? In your quest to get to the (imaginary) finish line, are you missing the here and now?

One of my favorite songs that snaps me back into reality like no other is “Incomplete” by Alanis Morissette.

Yes, that’s right. To celebrate the 20th anniversary of “Jagged Little Pill”, I thought I’d call attention to a song that’s not even on that album. ;)

There’s a link below to hear the whole song, but here are the lyrics from the refrain that really hit me when I heard them for the first time:

I have been running so sweaty my whole life
Urgent for a finish line
And I have been missing the rapture this whole time
Of being forever incomplete

Damn, Alanis. Way to nail how I was going about my life with your vulnerable and wise lyrics.

Again, I’d heard people say that life was about the journey that you’ll never be “done” but it wasn’t until hearing that song in 2008 that it really clicked for me.

We want to get to the end.  But then what?  Doing, learning, growing, changing, evolving, progressing - that’s what it means to be a participant in this thing called life.

Being alive means accepting that we’re going to continue to have challenges and situations and “stuff” to deal with.  If that stops, then the journey’s over.

If you’re running fast and furious to get someplace where you think things won’t change, and it’ll be calm, steady and perfect, so that THEN you can be happy or THEN you can live the way you want to, I prescribe this song as a way to help change your expectations.

It’s only when we’re experiencing the good, the bad, the ugly - and everything in between – that we’re truly living.

Listen to “Incomplete”.  Accept.  Exhale.  You’re alive.  It’s all good.  Enjoy yourself!!

Have a beautiful weekend and I look forward to talking to you soon. :)

Bee Buzzing,
Amy, The Queen Bee NYC

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