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Feeling Incomplete Is Okay

It's okay to feel incomplete because life's about the journey more than the finish line.

Aloha, and Happy Thursday!!  I’m coming to you from the beautiful island of Maui, where I’m soaking up serious quantities of Vitamin D.  I’m also absorbing some serious wisdom as I read a bunch of the books in my Kindle Fire library.  I’m thrilled to share all my newfound
knowledge with you, but all in good time, of course. 

For now, here’s your Buzz for the week!  It’s about feeling incomplete and why that’s okay.

I love listening to music.  While I’m definitely a proponent of silence, I’d say 90% of my day is spent listening to tunes.  Headphones are like a permanent accessory for me.  I have playlists for everything, since I use music to stir up certain feelings and alter my mood. 
Here’s a sampling:

    • Energize: This, coupled with coffee, revs up my mornings!
    • Daydream: This is for when Amy’s Mind Cinema is open for business.
    • Feel Good: I listen to this as background when I’m working or baking, to help generate my (not-so) secret ingredient: love. 
    • Skate: I’ve choreographed some awesome routines to these songs. 
      (Okay, so maybe I’m not really a world champion figure skater, but in my
      mind I am!)
    • Pick-me-up: Mainly listened to when I need to feel better, like after riding the subway or walking though Times Square.
    • Sing Out Loud: I play this only after my neighbors have left for work or I’m alone in the car!
    • Comatose: The mix I use to help relax my mind and drift off to sleep.
    • Theme Songs: These are songs that would be on my life-so-far soundtrack.

And the list goes on!  Jeez, I feel like I just revealed a whole lot about myself, like how much time I have on my hands.  Ha!  Seriously, everyone has their thing(s) and music is one of mine, so curating it’s a pleasure for me.

My music collection is pretty eclectic, but one of my favorite artists is Alanis Morissette.  The vulnerability, truth, and wisdom Alanis expresses in her lyrics touch me (and countless others!) in a profound way.

Her 2008 album, “Flavors of Entanglement”, was especially healing for me.  The song “Incomplete” really moved me.  It described a concept that I knew of, but had yet to incorporate into my life.  After hearing it, I felt like I could finally exhale.

That song popped into my head recently, and I wanted to share it with anyone who hasn’t heard it—or refresh your memory if you have.  Maybe, like me, if this message hasn’t clicked for you, it will this time.

There’ll be a link below to let you hear the song in its entirety, but here are the lyrics from the refrain that really hit me:

I have been running so sweaty my whole life

Urgent for a finish line
And I have been missing the rapture this whole time
Of being forever incomplete

This song came to mind because so many people I talk to seem to be in such a hurry to get somewhere.  They’re sweaty, not to mention out of breath!  They’re so caught up in getting to the finish line that they miss the here and now.

They want to get to the end.  But then what?  Being alive means accepting that we’re going to continue to have challenges and situations and “stuff” to deal with.  If that stops, then the journey’s over and we’re dead!

If we’re not expanding, then why are we even here?  Doing, learning, growing, changing, that’s what it means to be a participant in this thing called life.  Right?

If you’re running fast and furious to get someplace where you think things won’t change, and that it’ll be calm and steady and perfect, I prescribe this song as a way to help change your expectations.

Let’s realize that we’re truly living when we’re experiencing the good, the bad, the ugly, and everything in between!

Forever incomplete.  Never done.

Listen to “Incomplete”.  Accept.  Exhale.  You’re alive.  It’s all good.  Enjoy yourself!!

If you liked this, chances are someone you know might too!  Please spread The Buzz with the links below.  I’d “bee” ever so grateful!

Now I’d love to hear from you!  Tell us some of the songs that move you and why in the comments below.  You could win (I told you I’d be back with another giveaway!) an iTunes gift card just for

Aloha & Mahalo!
Amy, The Queen Bee NYC

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