Have a look at the following list:
Would you voluntarily choose to experience any of the above issues regularly? My guess is no.
I know I wouldn’t - and yet I did. For years, I experienced all of the above because I stayed in jobs and relationships that weren’t right for me.
I actually sold myself on believing it was okay to spiral into self-doubt, break out into rashes before work, and spend Sunday nights feeling queezy and anxious.
I had reasons though - excuses. Boy, could I win an award for my ability to rationalize!
But by talking myself out of how I felt, I was basically saying that I didn’t matter.
That may seem extreme, but think about it. When you believe you can have what you want, you don’t let anything get in your way, right? You just go for it.
Would you want to see anyone you care about suffer these physical and emotional symptoms constantly? I really hope the answer is no! So why is it an acceptable norm for you?
Not until you believe you deserve to have a better life – whatever that looks like for you – will you begin to choose yourself.
This is not always easy, I know - I was there.
But I can tell you with absolute certainty that the uncomfortable feelings associated with choosing yourself are temporary, whereas when I stayed in unhealthy situations, that feeling of sinking deeper into a pit of despair didn’t go away – even if it was numbed for a bit.
Here’s an inspirational story. So, this week I received an email from a member of The Hive and literally squealed with joy when I read it.
Full story in the podcast, but the gist is this man decided to choose himself for the first time in a long time. He’s not letting age, the approval of others, or “reality” stop him from going after what he wants.
And guess what? His clarity has generated a confidence that’s acting like a giant magnet to attract the right opportunities to him and he’s on his way to his dream job.
I love his courage to create a better future and can’t wait for his next update!
Your life won’t change until you do.
Don’t roll out the red carpet for the problem parade by staying in bad situations. Start your own march toward freedom.
“Bee” confident and courageous and choose yourself!
Have a sweet day and until next time…
Amy, The Queen Bee NYC
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