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How To Make Your Dreams Come True

Be a Doer, Not Just a Dreamer. How Dreaming and Doing Go Hand in Hand.

After last week’s post about the importance of dreaming, I got an email from a reader saying that she was recently at Dartmouth and heard screenwriter, producer and director, Shonda Rhimes (Grey’s Anatomy, Private Practice and Scandal) give the commencement address. She thought I’d be interested in what Shonda had to say, and she was right! (Thank you!)

I watched the video of Shonda’s speech and am glad it was brought it to my attention so I could share it with you.

“I think a lot of people dream,” Rhimes explained. “And while they are busy dreaming, the really happy people, the really successful people, the really engaged, powerful people, are busy doing.”

Shonda goes on to say that “…dreams do not come true just because you dream them.” And that’s why I thought this would be a great follow up to my last post.

In order to get what you want, you have to dream AND do. The two go hand in hand.

While Shonda doesn’t touch on the value of dreaming, I do believe it’s important because when you dream, you imagine how you want to feel and those feelings stir up an invisible energy that has an effect on your reality.

Dreaming can be challenging for reasons I’ve touched on in my previous post, but it can be easier than doing.

A few years ago I read an article that talked about how men and women differ when it comes to exercise procrastination. I laughed when I read it because I totally related.

It explained that when women decide they want to start running, they have the tendency to get caught up in everything but the exercise. They research training programs, strategies, running groups, trails. They go shopping to get all the right gear. They make anew playlist (Guilty!). They may even look into a complimentary diet to go along with their new fitness routine. They create a plan, schedule workouts and meals, set goals, etc.

When men decide they want to start running, they get changed, lace up their sneakers and go for a run. They just do it.

Now, I’m not putting down preparation. There’s value in thinking things though, but I’m sure you can recall instances where you planned, but things didn’t start to come together until you were in the process of doing.

Back to your dreams. If you’re not totally clear about what it is you want, it doesn’t matter. I repeat – it doesn’t matter! Your clarity will come once you take action.

Don’t complicate. Keep it simple. One small step is all it takes to build momentum.

Do something – anything! – because once you start moving, you’ll keep moving. (Physics flashback anyone?)

Before you know it, you’ll be in a flow, feeling the way you want to feel – making your dreams come true.

So dream on! But then come down from the clouds and get those feet on the ground so you can start running. Metaphorically.


    • When you dream, you’ve got to feel the feelings you want to experience in reality in order to ignite the energy that will help generate them.
    • Clarity comes from taking action.  Let your feelings be your guide to determine next steps.
    • Once you’re in motion, you’ll stay in motion.  (Until you hit a
      block.  Which is what coaches can help with.  And I’ll touch on blocks
      in the future.)
    • Shonda Rhimes’s speech (24 minutes) is below. (If you watch any of her shows, this address proves how powerful her writing voice is.  Tell me this does not sound like one of the characters she’s created!)  And take note of her very last line.  Do I
      hear an echo?

If you liked this, chances are someone you know might too! Please spread The Buzz. I’d “bee” ever so grateful!


Now, I’d love to hear from you! Do you have trouble doing? What trips you up, if anything? Any tips on how you light your fire? Share your thoughts by leaving a comment!



Here’s to living your sweetest life!



Bee buzzing,
Amy, The Queen Bee NYC



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