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How to Stop Making Bad Decisions

Taking time to discern can mean the difference between happiness and harmony and depression and discord.

Disclaimer: Good, bad, right, wrong – when it comes to decisions, these words hold a different meaning for everyone.

If you find yourself continually making choices that lead you to results you’re not happy with, there’s a way to avoid that. It’s called discernment.

Simply put, discernment is the ability to judge well. And again, what that means is going to be different for everyone.

Whether it’s deciding to take a new job, enter a relationship, or go through the Wendy’s drive-thru, discernment can be the difference between bliss and bloating. ;)

Now there’s probably no need to pull over on the side of the road in order to weigh the pros and cons of ordering that spicy chicken combo, but when it comes to bigger decisions, you’d be wise to take some time to think things over.

Nowadays, everyone everywhere seems to be creating a sense of urgency. That’s not always so bad, but it can be really easy to get swept up in that and lose your bearings.

I’m not suggesting you shut off your emotions and become some unfeeling robot. Absolutely not. Feelings are triggers and it’s important to note them, but when you make quick decisions based on emotion it doesn’t always lead you to where you want to be.

So how can you avoid this dilemma? That’s going to vary depending on your personal situation (more details in the podcast) but the key to discernment is awareness.

You’ve got to be present and clear on how you want to feel and what you ultimately want.

If you want to be in a relationship with somebody you can have family dinners with every Sunday, then why are you searching for relationships online with people who live on the other side of the country?

I’m oversimplifying for the sake of keeping this brief, but I hope you get the point - you’ve got to know what’s important to you and make decisions based on those personal values. Capiche? ;)

No one can force you to do anything you’re not comfortable with. Don’t let outside forces and emotions cloud your judgment. Respect yourself enough to take the time to discern. It’s your right. Exercise it!

Which brings me to one last point to mention - discernment is a muscle that gets stronger when you work it, so start now with even what seems to be the smallest decisions. More about that in the podcast, so grab your headphones and a cup of coffee and let’s get buzzed together!

Until next time…

Bee Buzzing!
Amy, The Queen Bee NYC

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