Letting go can be a real bitch.
Not just of people, jobs, or places you move from, but of some of the stickiest stuff – your beliefs.
Most of our beliefs were engrained so early on in our lives that we know of nothing else – they’re our truth - and there hasn’t been a real reason to question them.
Until something happens that makes us rethink everything.
Maybe we see someone doing things differently and we want what they have...
Or we run up against (and hit!) the same wall with the same issue time and time again and we’re getting pretty darn frustrated…
We think – What if this goes deeper? (It usually does!) What if I need to change something I’m doing? (Good idea!)
Our beliefs shape the actions we take and those actions get us results.
If we’re not getting what we want, we can either change our approach or be patient.
Word to the wise: Don’t spend years being an ass, refusing to try something new.
My spirit animal’s probably a donkey that’s how much experience I have being stubborn!
I gripped onto my beliefs so tightly I had brain blisters. At first they hurt, but then I didn’t feel them as much.
The thing is, we can get so used to living with our “pain” that we don’t even know it can be better. It's all we know.
Then we rationalize that it’s not so bad because it's more comfortable than the unknown.
Plus, what would happen if we did something differently and it actually worked? How much would we hate ourselves then for wasting all that time being a jackass??
It’s funny, but it’s not. I’ve actually had that thought (several times) and used it to say still.
Oh Fear, you can be so powerful… ;)
Listen up my friend. Take it from one who’s learned - and continues to learn - this lesson: While it may be hard to let go, it’s even harder to hold on.
Experiment break: Take your hand and make a fist. Squeeze. Real tight. Keep going. How do you feel? Hold it…Keep squeezing... Okay, now let go. Ahhhh…. Relief.
Now think of that next time you’re holding on to garbage thoughts.
Or that person who doesn't bring out you the best in you...
Or the job that compensates with stress and whatever money you do make is spent escaping it - vacations, massages, booze...)
Stop settling! It can "bee" better!!
Be aware of how your beliefs are affecting the outcomes in your life and don't be afraid to let go and move on from what doesn’t serve you.
You have nothing to lose (except for the stuff you don’t want anyway) and everything to gain by changing things up.
And if it doesn’t work, you can go back to your old ways. It’s your choice. No judgment here.
But you owe it to yourself to try. You do. Because you get to decide what’s true for you – nobody else.
In today’s podcast I’m sharing some of the challenges I’ve had changing my mindset, so if you’re having a moment (or when you do) listen and know you’re not alone. And let me know what you think! I’m here to help and want our relationship to be a two-way street!
And finally, if you liked this, chances are someone you know might too! Please spread The Buzz with the links below. I’d “bee” ever so grateful!
Until next time…
Amy, The Queen Bee NYC
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