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Stop Letting Other People Dictate Your Life!

Your only job in this life is to know who you are and be that person.

Do you delight in being a rebel? And by rebel, I don’t mean someone reckless or rude. I mean someone who doesn’t conform - someone who knows who they are and is that person - no matter who’s bothered by it. ;)

I do. But, recently I lost my edge a little. (It happens.)

I welcome feedback when it has good intentions because I believe there’s always room for improvement and I want to be better.

Lately though, I’ve had a steady stream of rejection and unsolicited criticism (not all of it constructive) from people - some I’m actually pretty close to.

Sure, their words stung and threatened to take me down, but at one point I snapped out of it and started laughing.

What a joke! The time and energy I was spending (read: wasting) analyzing and trying to find a way to please and appease?? I mean, come on! WTF Amy?! You know better. So do better.

This whole situation got me FED UP. And the exciting part is that when I get this way, amazing things happen. I quit jobs. I dump boys. I move. I start stuff. I get happy again. I can’t wait to see what comes out of this!

Now, I turn it around on you. Is there something you really want to do, but aren’t going for it because of other people? Don’t want to offend a certain somebody? Want to make someone proud? Afraid of what people will think or say about you?

It’s time to say goodbye to that crap.

I’m not suggesting that “buzz off” become your greeting of choice to that naysayer friend, critical parent or unappreciative boss.

Simply be aware of the role other people are playing in your life and be more intentional moving forward – not letting anyone stop you from doing what makes you happy.

While any time’s a good time to do that, the start of a new year seems opportune. And that’s coming up soon. Holy countdown to 2016!!

Hopefully, things at work are slowing down a bit and you’ll have some time around the holidays to focus on yourself.

What do you want? How do you want to feel? What would you like to experience? Get on it. Life’s too damn short to not be living it the way you want. (Sadly, I think we’re all feeling that way given the news recently.)

If you immediately fight me on this with worry and guilt about being selfish or the excuse that you have no time, let me remind you of two things:

Number one: You can’t give away what you don’t have. In order to make other people happy, you have to be happy yourself.

And number two: When you give yourself permission to be who you are and do what makes you happy, a cool side effect is that you give other people the permission to do the same.

Here’s my take on New Year’s resolutions that can help you get geared up for doing what makes you happy in 2016. (I promise you won’t set yourself up for failure.)

Remember, you’re the only one who has to live your life so you might as well do it on your own terms!

And if you need some help getting clear on what you want, you know where to find me.

Until next time…

Bee a Rebel,
Amy, The Queen Bee NYC

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