I usually don’t tune into awards shows, but for some reason, on Monday, I was on Hulu trying to find something to put on in the background while I did some thoughtless admin work, and I decided to “watch” The Oscars.
And I’m glad I did, because two speeches really got me thinking, and I was just so happy that they reached millions – and continue to.
He said, “When I was 16 years old, I tried to kill myself, because I felt weird, and I felt different, and I felt like I did not belong. And now, I’m standing here, and so I would like for this moment to be for that kid out there who feels like she’s weird, or she’s different, or she doesn’t fit in anywhere. Yes you do. I promise you do. You do. Stay weird. Stay different. And then when it’s your turn, and you are standing on this stage, please pass the same message to the next person who comes along.”
How many of us have felt that way? Maybe not to the extent Graham did, where we contemplated ending our own life, but how many of us have felt – or still feel at times – weird and different and like we don’t belong?
I’d venture to say just about all of us!
So, if that’s the case, then how did being different become such a bad thing? What makes us feel like something’s not right?
“That little prick called ego.”
I had just published a piece on ego in the workplace for SUCCESS magazine, so the topic was top of mind. And to hear him state his point of view so eloquently - to millions - made me hope that everyone was truly listening.
He said: “Honestly, this is crazy in a way, talking about that little prick called ego. Ego loves competition, right? Because for someone to win, someone has to lose. But the paradox is
that, you know, true art, true individual expression, as all the work of these incredible fellow filmmakers can’t be compared, can’t be labeled, can’t be defeated because they exist and our work only will be judged, as always, by time.”
The truth is, there is no competition. No need for comparison.
We are who we are. We do what we do, and we express it in a way that’s different from anybody else.
Somewhere along the way, though, our inherent programming gets tampered with, and
we can begin to believe that we have to be like everybody else. Not the case.
Somewhere along the way, shame can creep in. But the whole vibe around shame is judgment. In order to feel it, we have to compare ourselves to someone or something else.
That’s when we feel like we’re weird and different and like we don’t belong, and that’s dangerous.
It’s time to get back to our core, to reprogram, to believe that we’re perfect just as we are and give ourselves permission to just “bee” and embrace our differences, not criticize them.
So, in that spirit, who am I? I’m the person who:
While these are just a few things that could easily be considered reasons to fear having a child who might take after me, I don’t look at it that way. I’m going to embrace my differences and own who I am.
I want you to do the same. Who are you? Tell me in the comments and set yourself free! :)
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