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The Declaration of (YOUR) Independence

Declare your independence from the habits that hold you back from having what you want. Learn how to set yourself free.

The Fourth of July is tomorrow!  For Americans, it’s a day that commemorates the adoption of the Declaration of Independence in 1776.

I’m usually guilty of focusing more on the food and festivities surrounding our federal holidays, but as I get older, I’m becoming more mindful of why most of us have the day off from work. 

I recently went online to read the Declaration of Independence and was inspired by the beginning. If it’s been a while, like it was for me (eighth grade history class – Holy Mr. Barley!), you can refresh your memory below:

When in the course of human events, it becomes necessary for one people to dissolve the political bonds which have connected them with another, and to assume among the powers
of the earth, the separate and equal station to which the laws of nature and of nature’s God entitle them, a decent respect to the opinions of mankind requires that they should declare the causes which impel them to the separation. 

We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable rights, that among these are life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness…

The situation got to a point where it was necessary to break the bonds that kept people from what they were entitled.  America’s founding fathers were so compelled to create a free nation that they had the courage to fight for their beliefs.  I always knew that, but admittedly
never gave it much thought.

But now, wow.  It makes me think about us.  What do we believe in?  What do we feel compelled deep down to do?  And what’s stopping us from fighting for it?

It seems so simple.  You may think, “I want a new job,” or “I want to create a business” or “I want to express myself,” or “I want to get in shape.”  I could go on and on.  GREAT!  You’re entitled to these things! So why isn’t anything happening?

Often, once we decide what we want, it’s as if the decision opens floodgates and we feel like we’re drowning in icky thoughts.

Fortunately, there’s a way to come up to the surface and stay afloat, and it goes back to my inspiration.

Declare your independence.  Make a choice.  Decide.  Say, “No mas!” to those thoughts and beliefs that keep you from having all you want.

That’s all.  It’s really simple.  The not so simple thing is that change takes time, and you’ll have to be prepared to endure a few battles until you’re free from negative thought patterns.

I can hear the sighs now and see those over the top eye rolls. (Oh how I love ya, Liz Lemon!)

I've been there more than once!  I’ve groaned and pouted and thought, “WAH!!!  I wish this were easier!”  But the pain of staying in bondage was worse than doing the work to get out.

What do you want to be free from? A belief that you can’t have what you want?  That change is too hard?  That you’re not worthy?  A fear of what other people will think?  A fear of the unknown?  A toxic relationship?  A soul-crushing job?  Anxiety?  Guilt?  Mediocrity? Depression?  Whatever battle you’re fighting, you have the ultimate weapon to win: your mind….and your mouth.

So, in the spirit of Independence Day, why not make some declarations of your own?  Maybe when you go to the bathroom to floss after that salty, buttery, peppery piece of corn on the cob, you look in the mirror (after your work is done of course) and declare your independence and freedom from whatever’s holding you back from being the person you want to be.

If you want to speed up your transformation, make this a daily habit.  Heck, make both of them habits, especially if you don’t floss regularly!

Your freedom is worth the fight, so don’t give up!


    • When you look at yourself in the mirror, you may feel stupid, silly, or nuts at first, but stick with it.
    • You’ve got to say what you want out loud and in the present tense, like you already have it.
    • Keep at it!  Make this a daily practice and watch how things change over time.
    • Even if you’re not “feeling it,” do it.  Trust me, your feelings
      will catch up, and one day you’ll notice it’s become second nature.
    • You’ve got this!!!

If you liked this, chances are someone you know might too!  Please spread The Buzz.  I’d “bee” ever so grateful!

Ad I’d love to hear from you.  Share your declaration in the comments!

Happy Independence Day!  Have a wonderful weekend!!!

Bee buzzing,
Amy, The Queen Bee NYC

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