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When You Know Better
You Care Less

Stop caring so much and watch your worries disappear!

You know how you can hear something a thousand times, but it doesn’t sink in until one day you hear it and it hits you like a ton of bricks?

Well, that happened to me a few years ago. I had heard all sorts of sayings about worry and why it wasn’t worth my time, but I just couldn’t seem to stop!

It was like me and Funyuns. I know they’re not exactly healthy. (This better not be news to you.) I know they add no real value to my life. (Although really, let’s define value.) And I know I’d be better off without them. (Damn you, Duane Reade (my supplier), for always putting them in my line of sight! (Of course, not “Damn you Amy!” for giving in to temptation!))

Here are some of the sayings I’ve heard over and over again:

    • “Don’t sweat the small stuff…and it’s all small stuff.” – Richard Carlson
    • “What you resist persists.”- C.G. Jung
    • “Worrying is like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but gets you nowhere.         – Glenn Turner
    • “Ask yourself this question: Will this matter a year from now?” – Richard Carlson
    • “This too shall pass.” (Proverb with Persian, Arabic, and Hebrew roots)

These “seeds” may have taken root, but they didn’t blossom until I heard my friend’s witty words of wisdom. All of a sudden, it was like they were doused with Miracle-Gro! She said, “When you know better, you care less.”

I won’t even get into why this is true. Can’t you just take my word for it? I mean, these people are quoted for a reason!

“When you know better, you care less.” I thought that was so funny, and yet I could see the wisdom in that statement. It was then and there that I decided to actually put that attitude into play.

I fumbled a bit — okay, a lot — but the day I scored my first touchdown, I was ecstatic. I even did a little dance. And then I kept scoring. It just got easier and easier. These days, I don’t score touchdowns every game, but I have a really good record. (I hope I’ve made my brothers proud with this sports language!)

In that moment, talking with my friend, I realized that what I was doing was not helping, and that the only way to change was to try something different. I was over feeling bad, stressed, worried, and anxious. Done. It just wasn’t worth it anymore.

I’m not trying to be all, “Look at me and how great I am!” I’m in no way looking for that kind of attention. I just see how drastically different my life is now that I put this idea into practice. I want to share it in the hopes that if you’re experiencing excess worry, you can be set free.

Here are some tips:

  • “Bee” aware! When you feel yourself driving down worry lane, start pumping the brakes. You’re in the driver’s seat and have control over how you perceive your situation and decide to act moving forward.
  • "Bee” patient! Don’t get all cranky if it seems to be taking too much time before you see any results. We’re all works in progress, and if you just let go and trust that it’ll click in its own right time, you’ll enjoy life a whole lot more. I promise.
    • Heads up!  If you’re used to feeling anxious all the time, then this might be really uncomfortable.  But don’t worry, this too shall pass. Seriously, I remember being worried that I wasn’t worried.  That’s how strange it felt for me to be at peace.
  • “Bee” persistent! Nobody starts something new and is suddenly an expert. (Though that would be nice.) You have to take consistent action and trust that each time you do, you’re making progress.
    • Did I ever tell you about the time when I was 14 and cried the night before my first day of work at Thrift Drug, because I didn’t know how to operate the cash register? That’s right, I hadn’t even started yet, and I was already freaking out. (I think that’s a whole other kind of crazy! <wink>
  • And in the words of Bobby McFerrin, “I give you my phone number. When you worry, call me, I make you happy.” Ha!

So what do you think?  Got any tips?  Share in the comments!  And feel free to share this with anyone you think might like it.  I’d “bee” ever so grateful to you for spreading The Buzz!

Bee Buzzing,

Amy, The Queen Bee NYC

© 2014 The Queen Bee NYC All Rights Reserved

Here’s the video for the 1988 hit, “Don’t Worry, Be Happy” by Bobby McFerrin.  I didn’t recall until I watched it that it features someone who lit us up with his warmth, humor and smile.  (Oh, that smile.)  Robin Williams, you touched our hearts and made this world a better place by being in it and sharing your gift.  May you rest in peace.

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